Heart2Heart Birth Matters

What about my Husband (Daddy to be)?

Dads are often afraid that the doula will replace them and take over their role as the primary support person. Nothing could be further from the truth! In reality, we are your support. We want to enhance not replace your position and your relationship. While the doula has more knowledge about the birth process, you have more knowledge and experience with your partner. The doula will join together with you to ensure that your partner's needs are met, and give you suggestions along the way, as well as a break from time to time. She wants to assist you and foster intimacy between you.

So having a doula will not replacement you or make you less important. We are there as an augmentation, a fresh pair of hands, a source of information and assurance for wherever you find yourself in the birth process. A doula will see you through to your "prize" and help you as you become parents together.

What about siblings?

You might also want to consider having a doula primarily for your new baby's siblings to attend the birth. Maybe your other children would like to attend, yet you are not sure about their maturity level or ability to adapt should difficulties arise.

With your previous direction, a doula can be there for your child/children to help them understand what is happening, to reassure them that momma's pain is necessary, will soon be over and is completely normal. She can watch for signs that it is too much for the child/children and be ready to take them out for a walk, or out to other family members should there be unforseen difficulties or complications.